Last week my cousin Elaine posted an article from the Huffington Post on Facebook. About being a single woman, 'Divorced and not dating' it's called...here, have a link: Divorced and not dating . I read it, it was interesting, and it got me thinking about my own life.
As you all know, I got divorced about 5 years ago, after a 20+ yr marriage and a 28yr relationship with my first ever boyfriend. And at the time I 'liked' being single. At first I was numb and devastated, after a while I found a job and started to study again, thinking I was really making something of myself.
I didn't really have time to feel alone, I saw my kids regularly and my friends...But then my contract at work didn't get renewed (economic crisis hitting here too) so I didn't have a reason to get out of the house anymore. I was still living at my son's place though and taking care of his cats, with much pleasure!
Somehow I managed to live quite nicely and fly to Chicago every year to visit my new boyfriend. I had to get on my own two feet too, so I moved to live with a girlfriend for a while, all in the north of the country and from there I found a job in the city where I live now. And after a while I found a house there too (well, if you can call it that).
Again I lost my job, after almost a year. And I have to say: I already started to feel lonely. I am in a city where I know only a few people- that are usually busy- and I have no money.
Well Dan said last vacation that I would join him forever in a year, year and a half. Let's say it's gonna be two years (the year that has passed and a year from now). And my kids gave me a kitty! I talked that over with Dan of course and he is all for it, said I can bring her to Chicago when the time comes and everything. So I started my 'Crazy Cat Lady Starter Kit' for little Kira Nerys!
As you can see she gets the best of the best and on the picture I have of her she's 2 weeks old. Next Monday is gonna be the day I will get her...a little kitten to take care of! That is at least something...Because I have found out in the time I was alone to find myself...I was NOT made to be all on my own, I really need people or at least pets to interact with and take care of! Dan says I am taking such good care of him already, hahaha. He has changed a lot. And so have I. In the years after my marriage I have become milder.
So I guess I am more than ready for the next chapter in my life! Starting with a cat....
Have a good day you all, and love the one you're with!
Hugz, Anna
